NaturalSunshine.com: How to: Deal with Toxic People
December 7th, 2011 | 
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Natural hair aside, how do you deal with toxic people in your life? We all have them. People who do not benefit or enrich our lives in anyway. Either we have outgrown them or there never was balance in the relationship anyway. It’s not that they are awful, negative people, it’s just that YOU + THEM = SOMETHING NOT THAT GREAT, NOTHING BENEFICIAL, NO RECIPROCITY OR BALANCE, NOTHING IN COMMON ANYMORE. You get the hint What do you do when you are in a friendship with someone who you feel you have outgrown? Holding on, keeps you in a pattern that’s no longer in line with your goals and letting go is hard to do. So, what do you do with these people? Do you cut them out? And if yes, what do you tell them? Do you say, “I think you’re toxic and therefore no longer want to associate myself with you?” Or “I feel we are headed in different directions in our lives. And although I have felt this way for some time now, I think we have finally come to the proverbial ‘fork in the road’ at which we have to part.” Those are questions I constantly ask myself. I also wonder how relevant a quote I recently heard is. The quote said, “At any point in time you are becoming the average of the 5 people with whom you are most closely associated.” If that’s true then wouldn’t the responsible thing be to immediately disassociate myself or at least reduce the amount of time spent associating with people who hinder my growth? My natural hair journey has sparked in me a desire to approach my life in a …
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Beautiful, and beautiful.
I am grateful for your wisdom and confirmation from God. I came upon you.You are brilliant. This will be just as good for 2012! I was in this process. My path has led me to honor the best of my gifts by making my and other people’s dreams come true who truly believe in being the best they can be.
Bless you
Much Success to you!
I agree with almost every thing you said. Except. People shouldn’t wait until a New Year begins to decide to DUMP TOXIC PEOPLE. They should START DUMPING TOXIC PEOPLE Tomorrow. Because, New Years Day may be a day to late.
Just my opinion.
I find myself sharing all your videos on facebook! I love them and your energy! Keep it coming!
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LOL laughed so much at lilly
cause it sounds sooo familiarrrrrr
A great video, Thank you for sharing.
@HairLikeMyDaddy
A quote from ‘Conversations With God’ by Neale Donald Walsch that has helped me immensely along my journey of self-improvement: “Betrayal of yourself in order to keep from betraying others is betrayal nonetheless. It is the HIGHEST form of betrayal.”
You have to do what’s best for you first, and then take care of others from your place of fulfillment. You can’t give what you don’t have! It does no good to try to please others when your own tank is running on empty.
What do you do when the toxic person is a family member? Its easy to cut off a friend, but family is kinda forevr….
Thank you for sharing, you are beautiful Inside and Out!
thanks for this wonderful video. it really spoke to me.
i guess 3 dream killers saw this video lol
Jesus helps.
-Blessings
That guilt is a “false guilt” I broke free from a toxic relationship we were friends for 7 years. A great book that was God sent : that was so helpful: 9 THINGS YOU SIMPLY MUST DO TO SUCCEED IN LOVE AND LIFE. BY HENRY CLOUD..GREAT BOOK THAT HAS HEPLED ME..no good Nilly. me + her = no good.
Its not about being a hater. These people will accuse you of being such things when you modify your lifestyle contrary to their way.
I have an ex boyfriend that is a combination of all 3 billie, frankie and nillie, he ‘s like 8 years older than me, steals for a living and spends 30 % of his life in jail, Sometimes you just have to hear stuff outload from others to make sure that your not the crazy one:-)
I wish I would’ve seen this video years ago, cuz my oh my I delt with alot of toxic people.They are out of my life now except two wich are my parents , I cant wait until I move out but they are certaintly making it hard for me . So how do you deal with toxic parents?
Now this sister is what I define as REAL and factually on point with this video!
This was a topic of discussions I shared with some individuals during the Spring of 2010, and it certainly moved a number of toxic individuals away. Peace
OMG I so needed to hear this video. For some reason I thought it was me but to hear it so eloquently said makes me fully understand its time to move on. Thank you.
This video is really helpful. I’m dealing with a couple of dream killing Dannys that are steadily trying to put a damper on the movement I’m trying to make. Its crazy how peoples words and horrible attitudes can affect you.
I cant find better words, good job.
I havnt got a Nilly or a Franky, cuz i already work like this.
You don’t have to deal with toxic people and even when it’s family—you cut them out and move on—and yes this includes family. There are books on this subject and you don’t have to put up with that.
You’re An Awesome Speaker, I’m Loving it Gurl, This is Soooo True, and kind of funny because you were describing people I know and the way I felt for being the positive one all the time, lol, Preach Girl!
My best friend is a frankie and a nogood N…..but shes the only one i got we’ve been bf since freshman year nd im not real good wit making new friends i want to drop her but shes my bf idk wat to do but shes no good for me anymore
loved your video. So positive and inspirational…thank you.
ur so gorgeous!!!